What do you do when u lose your DAD before Christmas

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Sorry to hear that. I lost my Dad in Oct. of 2005. We thought Thanksgiving and Christmas that year would be sad but when those days came we celebrated like he was there and it helped. He loved parties and would have been cranky if the whole family was together and there wasn't a lot of noise and fun going on.

Again, my condolences and remember time will make it better. :2tu:

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I lost mine a few years ago in Nov.

Spend the holidays with family and friends. Celebrate life...his, yours, everybodies. If he was anything like my father he would not have wanted you to morn over his passing.

Life is short and none of us will get out alive.

Make a toast to him, remember him and honor him by living.

I really feel your pain and wish there was anything magic to say to help take away the pain and loss. But there isn't.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Bill
 

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Lost my Dad yesterday. Lost for words. :smirk:

Condelences. "Smirks" prob not the right "smiley."

Sorry to hear about your loss. Try to remember all the good things you did for him and all the great times you two had together.

Those of us with Fathers still with us, lets make sure to give them a big hug this holiday season.

Again, sorry to hear of your loss.

Jon
 

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Oh man, sorry for your loss. I lost my dad March 31st this year. This holiday season will be hard, but I know he's in a better place and he'll share it with us. Hold your head up.
Lost my Dad yesterday. Lost for words. :smirk:
 

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Life is short and none of us will get out alive.
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You have my heartfelt sympathy. Hopefully you can take some comfort and reassurances from the members posting here and use that to comfort and reassure your mother.

I feel your pain as I have lost both my parents.
 

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I am so sorry to hear this. I still have my dad, but he's not in the best of health. Just like Jon said, remember all the good memories you two shared and know that he is in a better place! If you need anything, I'm sure everyone around here will be willing to help!
 

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I am so sorry to hear this. I still have my dad, but he's not in the best of health. Just like Jon said, remember all the good memories you two shared and know that he is in a better place! If you need anything, I'm sure everyone around here will be willing to help!

Same here. Sorry to hear of his passing KingSnake97, you have my condolences :( Just remember him the way he was, that way he will still be with you and your family.
 

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Life is short, but it’s pretty wide too. My dad died in my arms 21 years ago & it took me years to get over it. My advice to you is grieving any way you like. I was a young man & I totally lost it. My family was stoic & thought I lost my mind. But 20 years later they can barely talk about him without breaking down, I on the other hand, have nothing but cherished memories.

Here is a now funny story about that week, I was a 300 dollar a week employee at that time & I had parleyed a $1000 investment into 32 rental units outside Boston. I made more money a month in rent than I did in a year. After my 8 to 6 job I would spend all my nites & weekend on my slums. One or two days after pops died I decided to dump all my houses, everyone thought I was nuts. I had already mortgaged them to the hilt, so I had my cash out of them, & then my Brother in law called about buying some off me, my then wife to be, was handling all my calls. He asked what I wanted for this one three tenement, I said you can have it for the mortgage & your new corvette + $5k. (this was when the 84 vettes were just announced & they were extremely hard to come by) He thought I was nuts, as he just got the car a few days prior. A little while later he called back & asked if I was serious, My Diane told him yes I was. Next thing you know I'm on a plane to NJ driving home in my new Z51 7 speed vette! Everyone thought I had lost my mind!! I did! A few months later, crack became widespread in that community & real-estate tumbled! I looked like a genius, got out just in time. That car begat my Ferrari & that car was the one that escalated me the do the things I had only dreamed of.

Dad’s last words were "I never did anything, I was waiting for retirement"
I was determined right there that that would never ever happen to me. I learned to appreciate what I already had & found that family & friends mean more than anything money can buy. No one on their last days asks for another day at work or another dollar, they want who means the most to them as close to them as possible.

I truly feel for you & wish you all the best.
 

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My condolences to you and your family.
I lost my dad Dec 1st last year. It has been a little tough but I like to remember all the good times we had and all the things he taught me.

Dad’s last words were "I never did anything, I was waiting for retirement"

Unfortunately he never retired...and that taught me something too!
 

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My sincere condolances.

My Granddad past away on the day past Christmas in 2000. The night before we had a power shortage....
So the whole family together for the Christmas dinner couldn´t have the normal dinner.... because there was no electricity.

So we sat and ate bread at candlelight.

That night something happened and he knew it wasn´t going to get better this time. I was there when he closed his eyes.
It was very hard time, but now..... the only thing I keep seeing is the night before...... this great and positive memory.
So..... Christmas never became the same again without him, but the positive spirit will always remain.

Keep remembering the good times! How hard the upcoming time may be.
I wish I could do more, but.......

We´re here for you!
 

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I lost my Grandmother this January a week before my birthday, and my Grandfather passed a week later on my birthday. I still hurt, and think of them every day. I pretty much followed in my Grandfather's footsteps by joining the military and becoming a carpenter. He fought in the Phillipines during WWII, and never spoke about it. You cannot see that kind of horror and not be bothered by it, so it was a little comforting to know has was finally at peace. One of my instructors from tech. school lead the Honor Guard detail at his funeral, so it was little more personal.

Life is too short and the things we chairish the most are taken from us far too soon. Live each day as if it were your last, and don't leave things unsaid.
 

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Thank You all being strong for the family, but at night alone....while i dont have to say the rest. Jon, mad0953, etc, ...etc,....and the rest of the viper family I and the Beamon family Thank you All.
My mother and I are reading all the post that you send There better than cards in the mail. ;)
 

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"What do you do when u lose your DAD before Christmas?"

Is there something your Dad used to like to do, a holiday food he liked to eat or a place he liked to go at this time of year? If so, do what he liked to do; eat what he would have eaten; and, go to that place. I did this when my best friend, my Dad, died 25 years ago. I knew he was smiling from the other side. I have thought about him every day since he died. You will never stop missing your Dad but the lessons he taught you will take on even greater meaning as the years go by. Please accept my condolences.

Bob
 

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I am sorry for your loss. I lost my dad when I was 12 on December 16.

My thoughts are with you

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I'm going to approach this from a little different angle, I hope this reads right...

What do you do? You CELEBRATE!!! You celebrate him and his life and the family he helped to create. The fact that you're observing Christmas implies some faith, so look at it this way; your Dad completed an exciting journey, and now he's in a GREAT place BECAUSE of the holiday we're observing! I'm sorry for your loss, I can only imagine your sorrow especially at this time of year. God bless your father and the rest of your family as you deal with this change.

Merry Christmas, and stay strong, and look up. It's what your Dad would want.

Kelly
 

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God bless your Father.

I'm sure he raised a heck of a family and had many, many great memories. Cherish the memories you have of him. He earned them.
 

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Sorry to hear of your loss. Those who have passed away feel no more pain, but we still feel pain, since they can't be with us anymore. The pain of losing them hurts, but they most likely would wish that we only remember the happy times, and go on living fully, every moment.

My dad is 83, and just fell today. He broke his hip, and probably will recover slowly.

Tell those you care about that you love them, while you still have a chance.
 
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Very sorry for your loss. To say the least, it is very depressing to lose a family member.

You father lives on in you from memories as well as his DNA.

My wife lost(three years ago Oct 30th) her mother without any warning signs as 61. She always made Halloween special decorating the inside and outside of her house. Always had a party for her family and the grand kids, needless to say there was no party that Halloween.

My dad died 14 years ago on Dec. 8th four days before my birthday. I know how miserable you feel and wish there were words to ease the pain but this is one of the events of life that the living must endure. There is no way to ease the pain just remember your father and the gifts he has given you and others. It will take time for the pain to lessen but it will.

Again very sorry for the loss of you father.
 

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Hey T man sorry to hear. Did you dad ever come out to
fudgepackers?
I'm sure he'd expect you to have a celebration of life
and wind it up with some 700hp donuts.

Maybe see you out next season.

peace to you and family,
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sorry to hear about your loss king.

i am extremely lucky to have my father still around. in fact, at 70 years old, he still plays racquetball with me three times a week.

it is sad, but it is bound to happen to all of us at some point in our lives. when my time comes and i pass, i hope my loved ones celebrate my life and the good i have done, instead of getting upset over something they cant control.
 
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Thanks guys, you all have me for a lose of words.

P.S I will be eating his favorite dish. Baked Ham!
I also found some old reel to reel 1976 films of the family I'm sneaking off to have them put on dvd and pass them out as gifts.
 

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Sorry to hear about your Dad. I almost lost my Dad 30 years ago to a massive heart attack. But, thankfully he recovered. He's now retired, 77, and still sharp as a tack. I'm blessed to have had him around for so long. I wish it could last forever, but unfortunately I know it must end one day. He loves the Viper by the way. He kept it for me while I was overseas. However, believe it or not his favorite car continues to be, of all things, his '67 Bug--funny. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. jim
 

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I lost my DAD March 12 this year, what a day. My father was diagnosed with Limphoma Camcer in 2003. When he told me i couldn't believe it. I definately didn't want to talk about him having cancer (i was in some sort of denial). How could this strong person get this? I couldn't think about losing my Dad & my best friend. During Chemo he would call me all the time "just to talk", now when i look back on this he was preparing me for the rest of "my life". In 2004 I took him to John's Hopkins for his check up. He was declared in remission, no cancer could be found. I could not have been happier. He kept his phone calls up every day 4x's right on schedule.
Everything looked great. In February 2005 his Cancer came back. What another shot in the arm. I know he doesn't want to go thru the Chemo again. We talked about the options available. He decided that he would go back to John's Hopkins for some very agressive Radiation Treatment. They actually pumped this into his blood stream. I didn't leave his side during the process, i could tell he was actually scared even though he did not want me to know.
He kept up on his monthly check up visits, everything looked ok until he went on Winter Vacation in October 2005 to Florida, within 3 weeks i got a call that he was in the hospital. I flew down talked with the Dr.'s & we decided to bring him back home. We got with the specialists, the diagnosis, his lungs were filling up with fluid. He was slowly dying. While he looked healthy he was not. His Kidney's were failing.
My Dad started going in the hospital weekly to have his lungs drained. Weekly turned to every 4 days, then to every 3. My Dad was dying. From January 2006 until his passing in March I was with him everyday, sitting by his side talking & helping him thru this the best i knew how. His last evening of life he told me to go home & be with my family, I didn't want to but he insisted. The next morning i went back to my dad's at around 6am. His eyes were glassy & would not respond to my words. He had gone into a coma sometime during the nite. I held his hand, kissed his forehead, hugged him, taled with him, until he took his last breath of air at 6:57pm on March 12, 2006.

I will never forget about my dad, I think about him everyday & when i do sometimes i laugh & sometimes i get teary eyed. Sorry for your loss, He will be missed.
 
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